Eye of the Tiger | Having a Child with Down Syndrome and Health Issues

* This post is dedicate to Elijah Daniel Lautenbach Leimberer .  A child of the Down syndrome community who went to be with the angels 8/1/2012.

Rocky won best picture in 1976 which was the year I was born.  Most would say this is a coincidence but I like to think not as this is my favorite movie of all time.  There is something about the will to fight that inspires me.  The training montages, the underdog rising to the challenge, Apollo, Adrian’s heart- wrenching speeches… I love it all.  I love it because Rocky fights. He fights for what he wants and he doesn’t give up.  I love it even more since I’ve had Kelsi because I see that spirit in her.   I think other parents of children with Down syndrome would agree that the hardest part of raising a child with Down syndrome isn’t the part that people are initially scared of- the possible developmental delays or social concerns- but rather it is the medical concerns.  It’s when they face health challenges and the increased risk of further health complications.  Health concerns are an issue.  To say they are not would not be an honest reflection of raising a child with Down syndrome.

“You don’t throw a whole life away just ’cause it’s banged up a little.”  -Seabiscuit
I haven’t talked about Kelsi’s earlier days much.  They were filled with many doctors visits and numerous hospital stays.   Kelsi was born with an AV Canal Defect which is a serious heart complication and required her to undergo surgery when she 4 ½ months old.  She was in the hospital for around 2 weeks and a few times prior to the surgery.  My husband slept by her bedside, Grandma stayed during the day and I stayed there as much as I could emotionally handle.  I realized in the first few months of her life that I did not handle the hospital very well.  It scared me, reminded me of the situation I was in and even in the best of all hospitals it made me feel lost all over again.  Following surgery she needed a G-tube for feedings.  Most doctors told me to expect her to have this for years to come as she was past the age of learning how to bottle feed or suck on her own.  That was a pivotal moment for me because I was determined that Kelsi would prove them all wrong.  It was time to be Mickey (Rocky’s coach) in Kelsi’s Corner.  Six months later Kelsi no longer needed a G-tube and to this day is a champ at the dinner table! 🙂

“What if I lose?  Then at least you lose with no excuses- with no fear.”  -Rocky III
Looking back now I always say that prenatally I thought Down syndrome was a big deal but it wasn’t the scary part.  Having a child go through open heart surgery- that was the big deal.  Going into the surgery and preparing  your child for it is what is emotionally draining.  I found myself resisting the urge to bond with Kelsi leading up to the surgery for fear of losing my daughter.  But as I sat there often tempted to wallow in self pity I would just look at Kelsi.  If this little girl was fighting this hard, then so must I.  No parent should have to watch a child with or without Down syndrome suffering or in pain, but it happens regardless.

“Life is like a box of chocolates- you never know what you’re going to get”  -Forrest Gump
The strength Kelsi exhibits as medical challenges are thrown at her inspires me to this day.   Each time I get a shot and facing my upcoming knee surgery (I’m a wimp) I remind myself if Kelsi can do what she does then I can do this.  If these kids will fight this hard for their chance to live, don’t they deserve the chance to fight?  And isn’t it our job as parents to be their coaches?

“Faithless is he that says farewell when the road darkens.” ― J.R.R. Tolkien, The Fellowship of the Ring
In many ways I can relate the emotions that Rocky endures to the way it feels going up against the health issues.  You often feel beaten, scared that what you fear is the bigger and stronger opponent and you are left with a decision.  Will I fight?  Yes.  Is it scary?  Yes.  Is it  painful?  Yes.  Is it worth it?  ABSOLUTELY!

To Kelsi, and all of the children with Down syndrome who fight each and every day, THANK YOU for inspiring us and reminding us that “Anything Worth Having Is Worth Fighting For” – J. Johnson  (I think Rocky would also agree :))

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7 thoughts on “Eye of the Tiger | Having a Child with Down Syndrome and Health Issues

  1. Karen and Pam says:

    And we would do it all again! Medical conditions or not, Elijah was an angel on earth. We were blessed to have him with us for 3 1/2 years. It is SO worth it! Thank you for the dedication. 🙂

  2. Deb says:

    For whatever reason I’m just getting around to reading this post and I LOVE it! Tears streaming down my face, I know where you and Kelsi were and how far you’ve come. I love you all and couldn’t be more proud! Kelsi is so lucky to have you and Tony as parents and Kenna as an awesome big sister!

  3. Jean Frazier says:

    I loved reading this post.

  4. Deborah says:

    Yes. The medical stuff is the scariest. Great post.

  5. Tina says:

    we received the news that our unborn baby boy has Downs, I have 2 young girls, I am searching for some hope since we received the news and we have a long way to go til due date, it is breaking our hearts, I have searched high and low for some thing positive and this must be the one I need to to keep me strong and to keep hoping. There are so many fears going thru my head, its exhausting. Thanking you and my prayers are with you at this time.

    Kelsi was such a beautiful child and I am sure even more so with wings…….

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